How to Survive PA School as a Dad Advice from a PA School Parent

The Life of a PA School Father My name isWilliam Seibt, and I was a PA student and a dad. We moved out to Miami from Phoenix to attend PA schoolwhen my son was nine months old. "One of my son's first semi full sentences was, You have to study? I imagine it will be the same when I have to finish up notes at home from work You have to work? - William Seibt PA-S We arrived in Miami in a Penske truck the evening before classes started and stayed with my sister-in-law for the first week. The first weekend of school, we moved into our new place where we still live today. I have to give my wife credit for setting up the house and taking care of our son while we started our new journey. The first year of PA school was the toughest; I wasn't able tospend a lot of time with my family, and my wife bore the burden of taking care of our son on her own. I was either at school or studying at the library. I knew that finding the balance between life and school wasnecessary, but this was a difficulttransition.I didnt always feelthat I could afford the time away from the books and still pass; the workload was just too great at some intervals. Looking back on it, I feelthat I just popped in on the family every once in a while, either for dinner or just before going to bed. I made every attempt to spend time with myfamily for the last hour of theevening, but that didnt always work out. I made it a point to be available onthe weekends, and my wife was fantastic at planningevents and finding activities to do. I often loaded slide show presentations and books onto my phone and would sit on the bench at the park or in the mall. I would review lectures or topics while my wife and son played. There were some events, such as my sons first birthday or Halloween night, where I made it a point to put the books away for the evening (not the whole day though).I got to enjoy seeing my son dressed up as a dragon and learn how to try to say trick-or-treat. But even then, my wife made all the arrangements and preparations without me. The second year was clinical rotations, and the workload finally lightened up; this is in contrast to the first year. I was able to spend more time with the family, but I found I was lost about what to do around the house to help. Ever since we moved into our place, I had my nose buried in the computer studying. My wife laughs because, for the longest time, I didnt even know where we kept the toilet paper. My school was a 2 year program, so studying for the PANCE didnt officially start for me in the second year. The second year, we enjoyed going to the beach on weekends and doing events around the city. It was the best year of PA school. Then the third year started it was all classroom time again. It was also time to start focusing on the PANCE. Once again, my nose was buried in the computer, and there was time away from the family. The same routine started again. The final semester was much shorter than the other semesters for my program, so it wasnt as bad to go through. My son was a little older and had learned how to speak a few words and sentences by this time. He was also more insistent onspending more time with me. That was the toughest part, having to tell my son no, I cant spend time with you. I have to study while trying to get out the door. A 2-year-old doesnt understand this, and they will repeatedly ask to play, and I found it a little heart breaking. One of my son's first semi full sentences was, You have to study? I imagine it will be the same when I have to finish up notes at home from work You have to work? A recurring theme in PA school is that of my wife taking on the responsibilities of most everything while I went to school. This includes raising our son pretty much on her own. We were fortunate that our son wasyoung when I started PA school. He is two years older now, and Iam looking for my firstjob, he needs my attention, and Im happy not to have to say no all the time. My advice to anyone with kids or planning on having kids while in school Before you start school, discuss the lifestyle with your partner. I dont know anyone who would say that PA school was easy. You will both be going through this trial together, and with a family, it is a team effort. If you can try to live near extended family. We lived near my wifes sister, and I think this helped. Once youre in school, do not study at home. You will need time to focus on you studying without distractions. If you stay at home, your family will need your attention, or you will want to give it to them. Either way, remove that distraction. Be sure to give your family some of your time. Either for dinner, at the end of the day, or on the weekend. This requires some flexibility andwill dependon yourtesting schedule. Mostof your hard-core studying will be dependent on what tests you have that week. For the bigger occasions (birthdays, anniversaries, school events), take a chunk of the day off if you can afford to. During the semester breaks, make that time count. I knew some fellow students that took mini vacations or "staycations." We couldnt afford that on our budget, but if you can afford it, do it. Finally, show your better half your appreciation for supporting you Buy flowers or cards every once in a while. I went through one semester where I left my wife little notes for her to find in the mornings when she woke up. At the end of each semester or rotation, I would buy her flowers. I tried to let her know that I still noticed her and thought of her and my son. This was a guest post by William Seibt, William joined the Air Force in 1992 andleft active duty in 1998.He attendedArizona State University in 2000 where he received his B.S. in Chemical Engineering andwhere hemet his wife. His son was born in 2012, they moved to Miami in 2013 for PA school, and graduated in December of 2015. View all posts in this seriesMarried with Children in PA School: How This Mom Makes it WorkHow to Survive PA School as a Dad: Advice from a PA School ParentGoing Midlevel Midlife: Michelles Story of Becoming a Physician Assistant in her 40sLife as a Single Mom in Physician Assistant (PA) School You may also like -Life as a Single Mom in Physician Assistant (PA) SchoolEditors Note: This is a guest post from Jennifer of The PA Cafe. 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